A child does not freely choose how to behave; they adapt to the environment they were given. If a parent was unpredictable, the child learns to read faces and voices with great precision. If love came along with good grades, the child learns to perform. If they were teased at school, they learn to make others laugh, or to become invisible. These solutions were smart and useful back then. The problem is that they often keep running after circumstances have changed. The questionnaire is inspired by world-renowned behavioural analysis expert Chase Hughes and the “childhood development triangle” he describes: what did the child need to do (1) to feel safe, (2) to make and keep friends, (3) to earn “rewards”, that is attention, appreciation, love. The three sides correspond to three scenes of childhood: home, the playground and the classroom. These scenes often come back to life in relationships, among friends and at work. The questionnaire is based on research into the ways children adapt to their environment. The Dynamic-Maturational Model of attachment (DMM) describes the child’s self-protective strategies, such as compulsive caregiving or compliance (Crittenden, 2008). Research on parental conditional regard shows that when love depends on performance or compliance, self-worth becomes fragile (Assor, Roth & Deci, 2004; Crocker & Wolfe, 2001). Studies of children growing up in unpredictable or threatening environments record heightened vigilance to signs of anger (Pollak & Sinha, 2002; McCrory et al., 2011). Finally, the need to belong is considered a fundamental human need (Baumeister & Leary, 1995). The three sides are usually connected. For example, the “right” clothes may have made us more accepted by others, acceptance brought friends, friends brought safety, and safety brought the sense that we were worth something. As you answer, you may start to see this cycle. This is a self-awareness tool, not a clinical diagnosis.